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The Blog About Sex

You knew it was just a matter of time. How could we ever build an online community that’s all about 360 womanhood without ever talking about sex? So, this is just the first blog on the topic; one about sex in general. Over the next few months, we’ll also talk about sex in your 20’s, sex in your 80’s and sex at every other age in between. You’ve been warned. (And to my adult children who are asking themselves “is she serious?” the answer is “absolutely”).

Sex is healthy. Sex is a good thing. It’s good for parents and grandparents. It’s good for young and old. It’s good by yourself and usually good with others. Sex is normal behavior for human beings. So, if this idea turns you off (pardon the pun) feel free to move on to the blogs on living wills, market volatility or shoes.

Is sex something we talk about with friends? Yes. Women talk to their girlfriends about sex all the time. Men also talk to their guy friends about sex all the time (although I doubt quite as honestly).

Do couples talk about sex? Sometimes. If you’re in a long-term relationship, you should be comfortable discussing sex with your partner: Do you want more? Do you want less? Do you want something different?

If you’re not in a long-term relationship, you may be dating around or in a short term relationship and deciding if it might become a more serious long-term relationship. In either case, sex (including sexual compatibility and sex-related decisions) can be an important factor.

Sex is one of those things that sells music, magazines, movies and makeup. And make no mistake, it also sells expensive drugs. Think Viagra and Cialis. The ads are everywhere and everyone watches them. How do we know? Because everyone talks about them at the café, coffee shop, book club, wine bar and water cooler. And most of us don’t talk about the quality of the ads (Why are there two bathtubs in the middle of nowhere?) but, rather, about the side effects mentioned in the last 15 seconds. You’re probably nodding and smiling now, because you know exactly what I’m talking about. Four hours or more? Really? Scary. Very scary (at least to me).

That’s enough sex for now. I just wanted to introduce the general topic and set the table for more age-specific servings in the near future. But, as Bette Davis said in one of my favorite classic films, All About Eve, “Fasten your seat belts, it’s going to be a bumpy night.”

Editor’s Note: In celebration of our first anniversary, 360Women is republishing a few of our favorite and/or most popular blogs from the past year; posts that you may have missed the first time around.  This one was first published on October 15, 2015.

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Lee Ann Monfredini

Lee Ann Monfredini

Lee Ann Monfredini is the founder of 360Women and a life-long advocate of women’s issues, political activism, social volunteerism, organizational accountability and personal responsibility. A graduate of the University of San Francisco with a degree in Non-Profit Management, she’s not only served on the boards and executive teams of some of the most respected health organizations in the Bay Area, but built a successful second career as one of the most respected realtors in the market. She can be reached at leeann@360women.net.

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  • Women Baby Boomers and those who followed them have actually been “allowed” to talk about sex, unlike many prior female generations. It’s been a gift, occasionally a burden, and certainly a fact of life. Like women’s right to vote, it’s a major social change and I’m grateful for the benefits.

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