Be the Better Man (So to Speak)

Let’s start with this: I am mortified by the title (and mere thought of) “President Trump.”  He was my last choice when this all began and I am the last person who would ever cast a vote in his favor.  A quick search of 360Women.net will reveal numerous blogs warning against his character – see Donald Trump Cherishes You and The Dangerous Symptoms of Trump Syndrome – and I openly campaigned against his candidacy.

But now it’s time to move on.  It’s time to put my words into action, walk the talk and commit myself to using the next four years to actually demonstrate there’s a better way.

One barely needs to scroll down their Facebook page to find a half dozen posts encouraging others to reject these election results, boycott this presidency and ignore any decisions made by this administration.  Ironically, these are often the same people who lost their minds when Candidate Trump suggested he might not accept the results of an election he lost.

We can’t have it both ways.  We can’t condemn an opponent for the way they behave and then assert our superiority by demonstrating the same behavior.  We can’t claim exclusive ownership of values like diversity and then damn all those who think differently.  And we can’t promote ourselves as the party of respect by attacking anyone who’s not a member with the same of sort of hateful rhetoric we supposedly abhor.

I may not respect the man, but I respect the office.  I respect the system of checks and balances our forefathers so wisely devised and have faith that it will allow us to somehow work together. And I respect the fact that – for whatever reason – about half of my citizens were so desperate for change they were willing to support anyone who seemed to be listening.

We just spent eight years ridiculing Republicans for criticizing everything a Democratic administration did.  Are we really going to invest the next four whining about our loss and refusing to accept our lot?  Social media tantrums make us appear as little more than petulant children and just provide fodder for those who criticize our “unrealistic” view of the world.

Am I throwing my support behind Donald Trump?  No.  I am fully conscious of his poor judgement, concerned about his complete lack of character and convinced he has no idea what he’s doing or how things ought to be done.

But I also feel a responsibility as a citizen of this country to step up and show him.  So, I am determined to elevate the quality of the conversation and start demonstrating that our way is more effective.

I am choosing to remain vigilant and a clarion against anything that threatens our freedom as women, our reputation as world citizens and our overall quality of life.  But I am also choosing to be “the better man” (so to speak) and, in so doing, choosing to show instead of just tell.

Time to get started.

“Be the change you wish to see in the world.” – Mahatma Ghandi

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Lee Ann Monfredini

Lee Ann Monfredini

Lee Ann Monfredini is the founder of 360Women and a life-long advocate of women’s issues, political activism, social volunteerism, organizational accountability and personal responsibility. A graduate of the University of San Francisco with a degree in Non-Profit Management, she’s not only served on the boards and executive teams of some of the most respected health organizations in the Bay Area, but built a successful second career as one of the most respected realtors in the market. She can be reached at leeann@360women.net.

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  • I agree that is time to move on and realize we hav a new leader in this country.
    The election results showed an overwhelming mandate that most of the country was disgusted and fed up with the reckless liberal agenda and rhe moral and financial degradation of our leftist so called leadership..
    I disagree wholeheartedly with your comments about Mr. Trump stating that you are “fully conscious of his poor judgement, concerned about his complete lack of character and convinced he has no idea what he’s doing or how things ought to be done.”
    I support the man and hoped you would give him more creditfor what he is about to accomplish.

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